A Tip from PhD in relationship

One Tip I have learnt and I wanna share: Before you let someone into your life, ask them this question “ Do you love yourself enough?” Because only the people who love themselves, can give love.❤️🙂 If they couldn’t love themselves, all they can do it depends on your love to have their happiness and they couldn’t give you the love you deserve, and if you couldn’t satisfy them, they will cheat by finding other to full fill their need ❤️🖋 Hope everyone find a significant other and treat you right, don settle for less❤️🌟

Feeling bottled up?

Recommended Posts

If only~

I always wonder what if we met each other when I'm mature, will things be different? I was too immature at that time and a hot headed person. I would be lying If I said I didn't love u. I felt the energy that u might be the one that I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. It might sounds ridiculous but I totally felt like it when I first known u. I know u loved me too and trying to win me back too. When we broke up, I hated u and ignore ur message even though u tried to reach me. U added me back even when I unfriend u and that friend request stayed there until u finally moved on. I totally forgot about u when I'm focusing on my study and when I went back and see those messages u sent. My heart dropped but too late that I can't go back. I had things that I have to complete first and u told me that u'll wait for me. I told u countless of time that I won't change my mind no matter what. I'm thankful that u tried ur best on me Bong. I'm glad When I saw u finally moving on. I'm glad that I set u free and u found someone u could spent the rest of ur life with. Though many years had past, u're still the best person I've ever dated and I don't want anything beside ur happiness. Sincerely, I wish u all the best in ur marriage bong. #2017

What do you mean bruh?

You already had a girlfriend, why would the h*ll are you giving me the mixed signals dude ?

A clown 🤡

(This is like a note to myself) There’s a quote said don’t expect the happiness from where u lost it and they’re right. No matter how much u still love someone or feel like u want to give someone another chance just because u feel bad about it, just don’t do it. It’s not worth it. If there’s moment when u feel like u should go back, just remember how much u have strived, how much u have tried to moved on from all the trauma, how hard u have tried just to get urself back up again. I have come so far just to get over all the trauma that he gave me, now that I gave him a chance, he flipped on me and now I have to go through the same process all over again. It’s hurting and it’s embarrassing at the same time. He making me feel like a clown, but thanks for the lesson.

Am I that pathetic?

Is it wrong to have feelings for your own friend? And is it wrong to still have hope that we might end up together? Is it too pathetic to continue liking him? I can say that we are quite close, and by far, he’s the closest guy friend I’ve ever had. Close in the sense of me sharing with him about my day, my struggles, my happy moments, etc. He was very understanding, kind, and not to mention very smart. He listened to me ranting about my days very well. He also consults me whenever I’m down. We exchanged many texts. We texted non-stop until the early morning. He made me feel somewhat important and special. We also countdown together on New Year’s Eve. But, little did I know, he treated other friends (he had a lot of girl friends) the same way too…… I tried to distance myself and cut off my feelings, but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t. Even to this day, I still have feelings for him and still hope that I’m special to him in some way. My pathetic self.

How to say ''no''?

Sometimes it becomes pressure for me that I always need to say ''Yes'' to everything that my friends ask for. It's doesn't mean that I don't want to help them or whatever, but I feel really bad about it. They keep wanting me do whatever they want, I mean if they want that I HAVE TO do that for them, they always want me to do like that all the time, even I say ''I can't''. On the other hand, I still cannot say ''NO'' to them as well, whenever I say ''NO'' to them I always feel wrong but at the same time I feel pressure as well. I feel like sometimes they don't respect my decision. I swear I want to be a selfish person sometimes, I don't want to be a tool for anyone that can be using all the time like that, but I don't know HOW TO SAY NO. Tell me if i'm wrong.

How to stop getting attached too easily?

How to stop getting attached too easily? Because it feels foolish to know I'm the only one who still recalls the little moments when the other person has already forgotten about me and is enjoying someone else's company better, I'm the only who felt sad when we said goodbye that day, the only one who actually listened and remembers small details. I looked ridiculous for getting upset with the person's words and expecting them to understand how I felt, you know, that pathetic feeling of getting mad តែឯងៗ lol. What's even more foolish is that they have always set boundaries and made it clear that there's nothing between us. Yet, I still managed to catch all these weird feelings.

Temporary Unknown Status

Hey, you are the one who decided to break up and also you are the one who ignored and closed the communication even said we can’t continue anymore. As time goes by, I’m trying to heal myself and move on, you showed up acting like all the above things didn’t happen. When I ask why would you come back, you said there must be a reason but you don’t know it too. So I’m wondering what am I to you really? A toy?

The worst side

Let us be clear and agree all together. Accepting the worst side of your partner, doesn't include accepting to be treated like sh*t or blaming ourselves for getting offended when our "significant other" take us for granted.