Unpopular opinions

I believe that living together before marriage is necessary. Living with a non-family member is really difficult. yet, living with family members sucks, too. The next level in every relationship is marriage, where people hope to stay together for the rest of their life. I highly recommend living together before getting married. Some of y’all gonna judge me for this but my boyfriend and I are living together for almost a year now but we have been dating for almost 6 years. I have told myself that I would never get married unless we had been living together for 3 years at least. Loving someone and living with someone are two different things. You are two mature adults with habits and lifestyles of your own, its easy to say you know each other very well just dating. As we all know that in Asian households that couples or even fiancé are not living together. I don't know maybe I'm just too modern, I find this ridiculous. Why would you marry someone who you've never lived with? Sure you might think you know their habits but do you really? Now I'm sure someone will argue that many couples moved from their parent's home straight to their new home as a married person. And that these couples usually ended up staying together. But we also have to acknowledge that divorce was not as accepted as it is today. I know that we have “ culture “ but do you really want a surprise? That surprise will result in either "I like it" or "I hate it". You are betting on "I like it", but it's 50/50, so it could also be, "I hate it", which could make you miserable for the rest of your life or this marriage level may not be so permanent. And you know what would happens when you’re divorced? You’re being blamed and pressured from the culture especially when you’re a female. Most of our parents disapproved it because of “ s€x “ but if some of us gotten to know more about S€x Education, it would be just fine. some of us are sensitive about that topic, I know.

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Friendship

I don’t know what to say about this and I maybe think negative on her or what just tell ? She always heak ke me nv muk ke ( pm pseng pseng) Tae nh kor ot tob tor tv her vinh dea tus rg she kit tah Eng tha trov tan she ot sur me tha Rg men ot . Hz one day she heak ke me Rg secret Thom me Tae me men khg klang te kron orn jit why she do like that ? I admit that Rg ng men ten dea she yy Tae men trov tan os and nh explain Sleng reang klang dea and she jab derm yy tha Mii ng lv pas lg ban hz cuz pi mun nh ot dea tob vinh term lerk nis te dea nh hean tob cuz hous hat pek . Hz jab tan pi ngai ng she kor jab derm yy akk yy klang jreang mun hz nh kor jab derm distance pi her cuz I love her so much but she yy jab derm yy derm tha me ng mean ss leng der muy pm tang Kapit me kron ot jg chlous knea muy her te and my gp leng sv yy muy me Dh mun dea but now I’m move on without telling this story with another . I have only her and now she do like that to me . It hurt so much and nh ot jg yy rg orn jit tv brab her cuz klach chlous knea klang jreang ng cuz ke kan Jerng her jren jreang nh tan dea ke ot sur me why I distance from this gp . Sorry write tan yum jg reang bak mer tic aii bong .
2025-08-14

My aftermath

It’s been 4 months now. I had bread with condensed milk today and my tears drop at the last bite when I saw us. I saw the time you eat muffin in Uni every morning and think to myself I would never date the guy but then you appeared in class. I saw the time when you were mean to me just so we can get closer. I saw countless topics you would pick on me and we would fight on purpose. I saw the time when we went on the first trip, I would never get why anything you tried to relay, so that night with sounds of the sea under the stars I asked and there I got myself a confession that I never expect. I saw you driving me home in others car or would took trains with me so I can go home safe and we can see each other a little more. I saw us going to the beach at 2am. I saw the time we got frustrated just cuz we really want the “best” best for each other when we were stubborn at times. I saw the time when you only show the silliest side to me and not others. I saw the time when I was being dramatic on purpose so i can see you fight for me more cuz that’s lovely. I saw the time when I said harsh things just to see how much you can take. I saw the time when we went back to visit Bodia together for the first time and you would have a hard time being with my friends and how uncomfortable you look becuz you were guilty of hanging out everyday being with a girlfriend rather your family while you visits and you don’t even enjoy it. I saw the time when I stood you up outside my friends house becuz we fought and I was crying in the room endlessly just to hear my friend telling me you are outside waiting for me, of course I regret it days after. I saw the time when you danced off to rewards from your efforts. I saw the time when stayed together 24/7 which I loved and hated, more like love. I saw the time when touching your cheeks, your hair, annoying you is my favorite things in a day when the city is locked down. I saw the time when we had our last hug at the airport during Covid which I never thought would be the last. I saw the time you had your first job and i would bombarded you with questions every day about it. I saw myself crying over the fact that you tried so hard to not burden your family and actually be that “son”. I saw the time you tell me your weird dreams, the one straight outa movie and shockingly the one we shared on the same night. I saw the time you would get emotional when talking to your family which I always feel guilty for hurting you in a way after. I saw myself becoming distant gradually becuz of the distance after you started it. I saw myself adoring you in secret and act the other way round everyday. I saw myself bragging about you to my mom just so she can prepare for the man her daughter choose. I saw you stopped liking me but the love stays, you couldn’t get out of the relationship that suffocates you at all. I saw myself realizing how much you meant to me, and I realized it even more when we called it quit. Just how much I actaully love you. I never regret every seconds in the relationship we built. You will always be part of who me. Without you I would never know what true love is. I would never get to love someone as much as my life. I would never know what sacrifice feels like. I would never get to experience so much life. I would never be an adult I am today. I would still choose to fall for you all over and over again if we can go back in time. Thank you for the growth, the honesty, the man that you are and what we had. Its a real farewell yeah? Goodbye, tvt
2025-08-14

What should I do?....

I'm here to ask for some advise and also confess about what's going on in my mind. My current state is " I don't want to feel that kind of pain, but I want to feel that kind of love again". I'm a person who loves hard and won't be able to move on easily. We've been talking more than a year and there's no label in our relationship. It's just more than friend, yet less than lovers. I've been keep doing this and loving her so much throughout the year. But I guess my love is just not enough for her. She will never treat me good no matter what. She did something depend on her mood and that's hurting me. Come back whenever she wanted and leave as I was nothing. Sometimes I felt loved and another time felt nothing to her. But like I said I still want her so bad but don't want to feel the pain too. I don't know what to do. I miss her so bad. My heart still so soft and pure to her. I still think about her everyday. Please give me some ideas guys. Thank you so much for your time.
2025-08-14

Thank you

Dear admin, I wrote 'Feeling and reason are at war'. I am writing now to let you know that I am just here to free my mind like you offer. You dont need to post it up on the page, I just hope there is someone who can read what is on my mind. Thank you and I really appreciate your offer.

2025-08-14

Irreplaceable you.

You were the best, you were the one who i trully “Love”. The word ‘Love’ is a strong word for both of us to use. We cross path as if fate brought us together for a reason. We clicked so well, it feels like 2 broken pieces were placed to complete each other missing parts. We both have the same taste in Movies, Music, things that revolve around us, We like to spend quality time together. It gets to the point where the word ‘Love’ grows on me and It gets to the point where i can’t go on a day without talking to you. You are just as cold as the winter, independent as you are and i love you. It’s hard for you to show your feelings toward others, you said it’s lame to ask for affections. but we eventually part ways. Months have passed, I started to live without you, I couldn’t move on from you if gets to the point where i have to date someone to move on from you, for godsake i couldn’t you were there everywhere i go, on my mind like a lyric that stucked in my head and i kept repeating it over and over. Everywhere i go i see familiar faces, where they looked like you, same glasses, same length of hair, the same hair style, the same way u walk, everything just reminding me of you. I was a fool to let you go, everything leads to regret, i should have never left you in the first place, i should have changed for you. You loved me, you moved on. I’m happy for you. We both crossed path and i’m glad. Our time that we’ve spent it will shine like gold in my memories. Irreplaceable you, no one can take your place.

2025-08-14

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2025-08-14

Love yourself

Let me tell you, Your beloved will leave you s.day, love yourself as much as you can.

2025-08-14

Because of her previous love makes her doesn't want to engage with love again.

Been loving her for years now even before she had boyfriend. (Almost half of my lifetime) I've been this far following her, waiting her to be ready to be in love again. And if she's ready to go again I hope that it will be me she chooses. She's already know I'm in love with her. I'm ready to take care of her, make her happy, comfort her whenever she's down. (She has problem with nervous breakdown) Well, I also think I've made her little happy sometimes. But she's an unexpected one, she seems happy today but then tomorrow she ignores me. It makes me feel bad 😐 ~It's kinda sad when I see people get to be in relationships with their dream person while I don't. Sometimes my instincts urge me to give up cuz the relationship between us appear that it would never happens. Thanks admins for approving.